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Just a Thought...

Judging Others is Costly

Posted on December 20, 2011 at 10:05 AM

Luke 6:37 - Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.


John 8:7 - So when they continued asking Him, He raised Himself up and said to them, “He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.”


For all the things I’m really good about, there’s one thing that lately I’ve noticed I’m really bad for doing – and it’s something I do far too much. I make snap judgments of other people without knowing who they are or where they’ve come from. Maybe you’ve seen this type of action in your own lives, or maybe you haven’t. If you haven’t, count yourself blessed because if you’re anything like me you'll feel bad every time it happens!


Each one of us has our own lessons to learn, our own lives to live, our own crosses to bear. It's worth bearing this in mind, because although we don't have long together on this earth we do have to live with and learn from each other, every day. It is my hope that in sharing my flaws, you can learn from what I've done wrong and you can choose the better way.


As an imperfect human being, there are many mistakes that I have made or will make every day. I don't communicate effectively, when I get worked up I don't always listen, I'm demanding on others and even harder on myself. I'm emotional and irrational and so independent I have trouble sharing my life with those I care about. How Trav puts up with me, I don't know - but I'm SO glad he does. Most of these things, I do out of fear. I'm scared to let anyone down. I'm scared to look less than perfect and I hate that I look imperfect every day. When I want to say something, I usually hold back for fear that I would come across as unintelligent and uninformed.


What is the good of all this fear? If we want God to move in our lives, can we keep ourselves afraid and timid and trembling? No, this is not possible. 2 Timothy 1:7 states “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” Wow. So what does this mean? Simply this - if we are saved and living according to the Word of God, in all things, we can boldly face our fears. We can do what we thought we couldn't - worrying isn't needed, because our loving reactions will be what is needed.


This means a few new things should be evident in my own life. Where I've been independent and scared, I will be able stand my ground - and yet, I'll know it's OK to lean on people sometimes. When I speak, I won't need to second guess myself because I've got the backing of the Lord! When I deal with another person, I won't need to worry about being worked up and hateful and hard on others, because I will love them. When I'm emotional and irrational, I can relax and BREATHE instead of freaking out because God's helping me work out the details.


As for the judgments I make on others, what I've come to see is that if I love and value someone I wouldn't ever judge people before knowing them. I know that on a personal level, there are a few people I have missed the boat on. I judge some people every single day because my flawed thinking has me believing they're judging me right back. These people probably don't even know or care that I do this, but I do. What I have been doing is divisive and uncalled for, and I truly am sorry.  This was never my intent, but it happened. 


What I need you to learn from my mistake is this - every day you allow this negativity to continue in your own lives, you cause needless pain not only to others but to yourself. If you're hurting everyone you know, including yourself, how will you ever know real joy? How will you ever know peace with all the pain you're clinging to? Please, let it go today. Join me as I drop the false judgments I cling to, and instead hang on to what I know to be true. Learn with me as I learn to truly love others the way we all need to - unselfishly.


What are you tied to that's helping you make judgments on other people? Is there anything you need help with understanding before you can really let go? How can we help you today? Please, ask questions! Strive to understand, and let us help you. Write us at [email protected], or reply to this posting right here.


Love and blessings,



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